As an Indian boy or man, what advice would you like to give to an Indian girl or woman?
As an Indian boy or man, what advice would you like to give to an Indian girl or woman?
Take a glass of water with you. What I am about to say, may need to be removed from the neck.
Five things are strange -
1. Woman is not the form of Goddess -
Whenever someone called a woman as Durga, Kali, Lakshmi or Saraswati, all the women became happy.
He said that you have to worship him, and the woman happily sat on the high platform. Hahaha. You would never have seen a prisoner wearing such shackles so happily. If the fetters are of gold, it does not mean to be worn.
The day of worship went, and the next day arrived. The woman started descending from the platform. He asked why are you getting down?
The woman said that I have to go to the cinema hall to see the film. Have to go abroad to study. Want to go to disco. Wear jeans and celebrate Valentine's Day with a boyfriend. Tonight is to have her birthday party at Saheli's house.
They said what are you crazy about? Do not do this.
Why? The brother has also gone to hang out with his friends. Will also drink beer.
Phew! Forgot yesterday? You yourself had assumed that you are a goddess. Sit on the platform. Stay inside the Lakshman Rekha. Stay in the walls of decorum.
She sat back quietly.
All religions were created by men. Made all "Gods" male.
Hear someone say that Allah is 'watching' us? No, Allah is 'watching' us. God also becomes 'He', not 'She'. Brahma-Vishnu-Mahesh are also all men.
Then, to accommodate the women somewhere, he placed Lakshmi at the feet of Vishnu.
Radha continued to suffer in the life of Krishna.
Sita followed Ram.
Parvati started cannabis for Shiva.
Many gods got married more than once. But if the woman has got five husbands, then when Kunti says that she should bring the goods, share it among themselves.
When the woman worshiped the deity, the deity was happy and married to that devotion. The devotee worshiped the goddess, then called her mother.
Ladies who were shown to be powerful were never shown any husband.
Women were told that husband should be considered as God.
But religion is something that you will not question. Whether you are a educated doctor, a judge, or an engineer, you will keep a fast on Karvachauth. Otherwise you will be at risk of committing sin.
I can understand, because my wife also had this fear, when I forbade her to fast for Karvachauth. That's why I said if you keep fast, then I will keep fast. Will starve all day. I will suffer a lot when I am hungry. Think of how much sin you will commit by hurting me. So he had to agree. My father wanted my mother to fast for him. But I also told them that it is useless to have a long life by observing the fast of Karvachauth. You fasted for many years, now leave all this. Then they too agreed with me. Dad was a little annoyed, but agreed in a while.
The orthodox fundamentalists will continue to justify the screws on women in the name of religion and culture, many liberals will continue to try to present a liberal interpretation of Hindu-Muslim religion. Many of these people are actually radicals who have worn the mask of liberalism.
Listen, look at this religious book from another perspective, not from this point of view. Look from the front, back, head down and feet up. Now do not show that our religion is not against women. But there is a lot of freedom for women in this. The real purpose of the burqa was such and such.
Then why are Muslim women all over the world now wearing burqas? They do not say anything on this. Hindus also claim that in our Hindu religion, women rank above men.
High rating means platform. Come on, sit on the platform as a goddess. Do not laugh more openly Remember that you are a goddess. We have removed the gotra and made it a goddess after your name. Then how can you forget?
From wearing mangalsutra, applying vermilion and justifying husband's leg pressing, the fake arguments of 'fake science' and 'fake spirituality' are on YouTube today. Where does science and spirituality disappear as soon as a man talks instead of a woman?
I do not say that you take out a procession against religion, or abandon religion. But God has given you the freedom to make up your mind about what religion is, and what not, and the Constitution too. You do not have to wait for the world to change in order to change your life.
It is not just about religion. Good thing, 'Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao' campaign was launched. But on a poster it is written that save the daughter, otherwise who will cook the food at home.
Well, let's go. This is clearly a ridiculous thing. The other wise people should be considered. People say save daughter because
Daughters are the pride of home.
Daughters are considered fathers.
Thousands of such poems are recited at the function in thousands of schools, which are made by the parents or teachers of the children. Such poems also get reward. You clap.
And as soon as you clap, you inadvertently stamp the Manoj-Babli massacre. Instead of standing in court with Manoj's brave mother, that Mother India, you stand with the murdered relatives of Babli.
Well, if the family of Babli disagreed about her elopement with her boyfriend, they would have broken all ties with her. Never let him enter your house. But no, daughters are considered fathers. Daughters are the pride of home.
The daughter ran away from the house and gave her soot, and on the basis of this, her family got an argument to kill her.
Save the daughter because she has the right to live as much as the boy, which God has given to her above. Who are you to place any additional condition on them to take birth?
In this way, the woman has always been harassed by pretending to be above the man. Now say that women are not women. Women are human beings. They do not have to be Rani Laxmibai or Kalpana Chawla for their right to live or for their freedom. A girl from a poor family in a remote village of Rajasthan, who will probably stop studying after the eighth grade and will be the burden of dowry on her parents, also has the right to live. The problem of dowry is not because of the girl, but because of the greedy people who ask for dowry.
2. Sunny Leone is not an example of a strong woman.
Here, I have nothing to do with Sunny's personal life. I am talking about his film characters. If she wears short dresses in films, then what? Or say, for what? Only to placate the perverted mindset of men.
For those who used to watch the dance of the manners of the wayward mood, the cinema hall has now become a hall for him. The men were never at ease with their open moods. He wanted dignity at home. Even today the situation is the same. Sunny Leone fans will find more men, and fewer women.
Many people will be quick to interpret my point that women should not have the freedom to dress on their own. Before that let me make it clear that
Even though wearing shorts is not a sign of modernity, but the freedom to wear shorts is a hallmark of women's empowerment.
Men wear briefs and bathe in the sea of Goa, so women do not break them. Therefore, for the sake of God, stop making the ridiculous assertion that women clothes are responsible for rape.
Rape also happens in the village. Little girls are not being spared, and old women are not. Men fix vulgarity in their eyes and distorted thinking of the mind. Like the viral aunt of Gurgaon, women who support this cheap thinking, also change their thinking.
Well, back to Sunny, she is a symbol of women being made objects, not women empowerment.
Many filmmakers nowadays show women smoking alcohol and cigarettes in every film made on women's issues. Before they are ready to make any sense again, make it clear that -
Smoking cigarettes is harmful to health. Harmful to men, so also to women.
There is no point in calling a girl smoking alcohol or cigarettes characterless.
But although there is no reasonable reason to start smoking cigarettes, but feeling free from a girl is a very nonsensical reason to start smoking cigarettes. Yet this reason has become very common nowadays. The grief of this madness is such that some girls are smoking cigarettes of so-called boys, except for the so-called girls' cigarettes, to feel at par with men. Just think that a cigarette has started pulling in women.
As I said, some filmmakers have tricked girls. Repeatedly showing all this in the name of empowerment in films made on women-centric issues.
They have given the revolt a lost direction for the freedom of girls. Smoking alcohol and cigarettes, going out of wedlock, abusing like men, men competing in every nonsense. I don't find anything wrong with Bitti's cigarette smoking in Bareilly's Barfi, it is as wrong as Bitti's boyfriend and father's smoking cigarettes, but making it a mark of freedom in feminine-centric films like "Lipstick Under My Burka" is very much Is confusing.
I have seen many girls feeling modern even by abusing them.
In one film, there is a scene of women loudly abusing Bap-Bhai. What else would be ridiculous with this. Don't wait, you will see more senselessness than this in 'Four More Shots'.
Priyanka Chopra is an empowered woman who rises up her career in the male-dominated film industry. Priyanka wears short clothes, her wish. But wearing a sari is also not a sign of backwardness. Sampat Pal, who wears saris and started Gulab Gang, is also a symbol of women empowerment.
To be educated is empowerment of a woman.
It is empowering for a woman whose husband is beating her, and her parents ask her to adjust, to start some business and live with their children in a separate rented house.
Empowering a girl to find a boy for her marriage is not shameless.
Empowering a woman to become obsolete, like becoming a bus conductor or filling a petrol at a petrol pump.
The girls have been inspired by Kalpana Chawla and Sunita Williams.
The 60-year-old Lizat Papad Cooperative, in which all 43,000 working women, not employees, are mistresses of the company, is extremely inspiring to me.
Who will show the stories of all these women? When will Bollywood artistic films talk about their power? Will a woman have to be famous for this?
Till now, the only thing was to compete with men in wrong things like alcohol, cigarettes etc. But one issue is somewhat different from this -
I do not think empowering a woman is a job. Yes, it is absolutely necessary to have the freedom to do jobs. But if due to the consent of both Mian-Biwi, if a woman is doing household work and taking care of children, then I also have great respect for her.
According to the Bloomberg Agency, 75 percent of the world's domestic work is done by women. The stove is also a work, and it should be respected like any other work. Instead of postponing the honor of women for the day when all the women of India will be working women.
If on the contrary the husband is doing the housework, and the woman is working, then what is the problem. When a husband and wife agree, why is the man a joke to anyone?
Famous boxer Mary Kom wrote an open letter to her sons. In this, he said that your father does not go on a job of nine to five, just as the father of your friends goes, because one of us should be with you. You will soon hear the word 'house-husband', but remember that it is not derogatory. They are my soul mate, my strength, who are leading me at my every step. (Mary Kom’s Open Letter To Her Sons About Sexual Violence Is A Must Read For Every Man)
The wife of a friend told me that I want to work to get respect in the eyes of my in-laws. My daughter will take care of her. I told him that if you really want to do your job, then definitely do it. If an employment is your dream, complete it.
But to make a job, to earn money, to be called a working woman, because if you get respect, then that false honor is of no use. It is the narrow thinking of this industrial society that earning money is a contribution to the household. Your daughter is still very young and depends on you. I think it is a good thing to take care of him. It is your right to be respected. Why do you obey the laws of in-laws for her? Raise your voice in front of them.
Just as the conservatives imposed conditions for raising the father's value for the girl's right to live, the agitators made a picture filled with conditions for the woman's freedom. One, this picture is full of misleading things, and secondly why should there be conditions? Are there any conditions for men's freedom? So do this tearing and throwing away this picture.
Empowerment will be through reading and writing, raising your voice, laughing openly and creating the ability to stand on your feet. Freedom talked to everyone, but respect.
3. The movement for freedom of women should not be against men.
I don't have any problem with Feminism, but nowadays I am obsessed with many women walking around with the fame of Feminists. These "hardcore" feminists would like to show you that the bump is female versus male.
But this is not true. The collision is between conservative men and women and liberal men and women. Many women are advocates of conservatism. It is also natural for her to be like this, because she does not see her daughter-in-law and herself like two women. She sees them both as mothers-in-law. Therefore it is nonsense to say that woman is the enemy of woman. If any two people are fighting in the street, then you would not say that Indian is an enemy of Indian. In Brazil, the man sees himself as an Indian, not in front of his street neighbor.
Therefore, a woman who has always been in a patriarchal society, it is not surprising that her daughter is banned.
It is not a big deal to take away his right to cry from his son.
He is also seen to be involved in his daughter's honor killing.
Therefore, liberal men and women will have to fight together. It is also wrong for a woman to depend only on the man to raise his voice for freedom, but the voice of freedom should be against orthodox thinking rather than man.
We have to struggle together for our daughters and the next generation. We also have to fight for the daughters and sons of conservative people. We cannot leave them in the clutches of their merciless parents.
We have to raise a voice against the accused of MeToo, then by taking advantage of this movement, a person will also have to speak out against the women who take out their life-threatening enemies by making false accusations.
In almost every divorce case, in order to strengthen the favor of your female client, you will have to protest against the prosecution of false cases under Section 498A of domestic violence.
It has to be understood that the movement is not only for the rights of women. It is also for all those boys who were not allowed to cry since childhood. Those were hardened from the inside. Those who are made to feel embarrassed to openly express their grief to friends. Those who are 'men' consider it to be a matter of shame to seek psychological help. For whom an idiom like 'agonizing in silence' has been made. (Depression in men: suffering in silence)
Let me tell you that there is a very deep unity between orthodox men and women. Nowadays it is found everywhere. Liberal men and women will have to gather and understand the ideology of this fight.
4. Apart from shopping, women may also have some interest.
There was an old-fashioned conservative conditioning that could be easily seen. But in the last 50 years there has been a modern conditioning, which is being injected into the veins of girls through TV serials, advertisements and movies.
Women do not watch action films.
Women are not particularly interested in cricket or football.
Their favorite color is pink.
Their hobby is shopping.
He is not interested in politics.
Every girl dreams that her prince will come to take her on horseback.
The girl never expresses love to the boy.
Girl likes - Sajna is me for Sajna.
The girls eat their heads to ask for a time from the boyfriend.
The girl wishes a gift from the boyfriend.
Girls start feeling dizzy as soon as they see blood.
The girls love going to the temple. When they close their eyes and pray, the boyfriend will see them.
Girls like robe boys.
Women find it taboo to read a newspaper.
The man is reading the newspaper, and the woman is making tea. She then says that Azi, do not leave this newspaper.
Not all girls, but all this is no longer a complete lie. Millions of girls have started behaving in the same way. Pyaar Ka Panchnama, shown in the film, really proves true for many girls. Here I am not talking about cheating those girls, but I am talking about the specifics of the personality of those characters.
Just as a portrait of a strong woman has been made in women-centric films, a picture of the common girl has been made from the rest of the films and YouTube videos. Like Hinduization, Islamization, it is now a thing called feminization. Similarly a picture has been made for boys,
Boys like to ride bullet motorcycles. This should be the dream of every boy. It is very cool to burst firecrackers into his silencer.
The guy who can drink more alcohol is more manly.
Your brother will drive after drinking alcohol.
It is very brazen to screw with the police.
The real guy is the one who puts friends above the girlfriend.
It is very fun to eat food in the restaurant and run away without paying.
Wearing a pink or magenta shirt in boys is a matter of shame. Even small children will get parents to get colored pans, notebooks with boys.
Boys modeling clay with clay - is that crazy?
Brother, when are we running Bangkok? When a friend asks, if someone says that I do not want to go to a prostitute, therefore Mauritius can walk, then he is a puddle.
Many girls will cling to you, this should be the fantasy of every boy. So apply this perfume.
Six, you are applying cream with girls. Not this, apply masculine cream.
All girls and boys believe that all this is their own personality. This is their choice. But is it not a coincidence that all girls like shopping?
One has to recognize this conditioning, be aware of it, so that it can be removed. It is not like a clear-sighted wall of conservatism. This is an invisible prison, telling you how to become one. Here the challenge comes on fighting with itself.
Today, I read the newspaper and see it. Today I leave my favorite songs and listen to something new. We have to disintegrate ourselves in everything. Have to rebuild yourself. So that we can avoid being pushed into the new model of patriarchy.
5. It is not necessary that the boy's height is more than the time of marriage.
Talking about women empowerment has always been a matter of rights. But no one talks about taking new responsibilities. Neither conservative people nor feminists. This "Ladies First" is another form of the same divination.
The daughter of a friend of mine is very upset with her mother. She started saying that brother, mother is lagging behind all the time. I also go to college myself. This girl's school was just seven hundred meters from her house. But even to class twelfth, she went to school with her mother in a car instead of going on bicycle or walking. Many boys will consider it a matter of shame that parents come to leave them, while many parents will also tell the boy that you need a parent just to go so far, what is crazy? But the girl continued to consume this defensive behavior of the parents as a convenience. Not only school, but also till the first year of college. But now that she has become a boyfriend, she is starting to find this behavior of her mother strange.
If there is a young son in the house, then the people hand over the hand of the boy to their parents, that is, the boy's grandparents and go to roam free. If something goes wrong, the boy will take him to the hospital. If there is no car, then the taxi will be taxed. Will do something or the other. But the girl who is dependent on her brother for going to her coaching, how will she tell parents that you go, I will take care of grandparents.
When you go to a self-service restaurant, the wife sits comfortably. The husband goes to order and get food.
The woman knows to drive a car, but when the husband is driving the car, why bother?
If you go somewhere to roam, the woman is standing worrying. Finding a hotel, booking a room, finding the next bus or taxi from there - all the husband will do.
Both boyfriends and girlfriends don't earn, but the restaurant's bill will fill the boyfriends.
Opening the door and moving the chair is considered a very gentleman's thing. The girl becomes so happy. Why, has henna in his own hands?
We reached the city of Phuntshaling in Bhutan. The hotel staff came out as soon as we saw our Tempo Traveler. Five women and one man. One of them quickly picked up my heavy bag. On seeing this, I suddenly got into 'Ladies First' mode. "Hey, what are you doing? I'll pick up my bag myself." I wanted to get my bag back from him. But he said "Sir, this is my job, let me do it." And taking all the bags, she and her four coworkers went inside. This is not just a hotel thing, the next nine days we saw it in every hotel, every restaurant, every farm, all the department stores. Women have taken everything in their hands there. Self-confidence is seen on their faces. Be it poor or rich, there women laugh openly, and do not flinch while talking to anyone.
It is right for women to be reserved seats in the metro, because some young and old men do wrong acts in the crowd. But when there is no crowd, should not a girl leave her seat for an elderly citizen? Some girls do this as well, which is a very good thing. But usually the girl assumes that a boy will give them their seat.
Few examples of this are seen that the wife earns more than the husband. Because in the Orange marriage, the girls themselves take special care to marry only the boys who earn more than themselves.
It has become so common that girls like rich boys. I want to say that this is a lie. But this does not seem completely untrue. The rich boy also makes the poor girl a girlfriend, but the rich girl's poor boyfriend is seen very rarely.
The girls accept the gift from the boyfriend as their right. She wants her boyfriend to put them on the eyelids, that is, pamper. In this way, she keeps giving the boyfriend the right to consider him his own property. These are girls like Preeti, the heroine of the film Kabir Singh. Then they later complain that the boyfriend is bullying them. Can the girl never surprise her on Valentine's Day or a boyfriend's birthday, or give a big gift.
It cannot be denied that women also do household chores. But the difference is that nowadays articles are appearing in newspapers that mother should teach her son to cook too. Now-a-days, even for household chores, kamwali is being installed But in the rich families where all the household work is done by the laborers, even outside people do the work. The work of those educated, car-driven, fashionable women is shown going to the kitty party in films.
Conservatives will never ask women to take up the above responsibility. Men will happily fill the restaurant bill themselves. Mother-in-law will not ask her daughter-in-law to go out alone to buy kitchen items. Conservative boys would be hard-pressed to marry a girl who is more than her own.
Because this 'Ladies First' is their trump card. If women like this started filling themselves with self-esteem, left relying on men for these tasks, if they learned to make their own decisions, then they would get out of hand.
Again let me say the same thing that if it is a kind of division between housework and outside work between a mian and wife, it is a good thing.
But girls need to stop being like my friend's self-proclaimed feminist girlfriend. When four floors had to come down and bring milk, it would become mimosa, and milk would bring her Shona Babu. But when it comes to making tea, the flame of feminism starts bursting from his heart. Well, my friend is living a happy married life with another girl at the mercy of God.
Take a glass of water with you. What I am about to say, may need to be removed from the neck.
Five things are strange -
1. Woman is not the form of Goddess -
Whenever someone called a woman as Durga, Kali, Lakshmi or Saraswati, all the women became happy.
He said that you have to worship him, and the woman happily sat on the high platform. Hahaha. You would never have seen a prisoner wearing such shackles so happily. If the fetters are of gold, it does not mean to be worn.
The day of worship went, and the next day arrived. The woman started descending from the platform. He asked why are you getting down?
The woman said that I have to go to the cinema hall to see the film. Have to go abroad to study. Want to go to disco. Wear jeans and celebrate Valentine's Day with a boyfriend. Tonight is to have her birthday party at Saheli's house.
They said what are you crazy about? Do not do this.
Why? The brother has also gone to hang out with his friends. Will also drink beer.
Phew! Forgot yesterday? You yourself had assumed that you are a goddess. Sit on the platform. Stay inside the Lakshman Rekha. Stay in the walls of decorum.
She sat back quietly.
All religions were created by men. Made all "Gods" male.
Hear someone say that Allah is 'watching' us? No, Allah is 'watching' us. God also becomes 'He', not 'She'. Brahma-Vishnu-Mahesh are also all men.
Then, to accommodate the women somewhere, he placed Lakshmi at the feet of Vishnu.
Radha continued to suffer in the life of Krishna.
Sita followed Ram.
Parvati started cannabis for Shiva.
Many gods got married more than once. But if the woman has got five husbands, then when Kunti says that she should bring the goods, share it among themselves.
When the woman worshiped the deity, the deity was happy and married to that devotion. The devotee worshiped the goddess, then called her mother.
Ladies who were shown to be powerful were never shown any husband.
Women were told that husband should be considered as God.
But religion is something that you will not question. Whether you are a educated doctor, a judge, or an engineer, you will keep a fast on Karvachauth. Otherwise you will be at risk of committing sin.
I can understand, because my wife also had this fear, when I forbade her to fast for Karvachauth. That's why I said if you keep fast, then I will keep fast. Will starve all day. I will suffer a lot when I am hungry. Think of how much sin you will commit by hurting me. So he had to agree. My father wanted my mother to fast for him. But I also told them that it is useless to have a long life by observing the fast of Karvachauth. You fasted for many years, now leave all this. Then they too agreed with me. Dad was a little annoyed, but agreed in a while.
The orthodox fundamentalists will continue to justify the screws on women in the name of religion and culture, many liberals will continue to try to present a liberal interpretation of Hindu-Muslim religion. Many of these people are actually radicals who have worn the mask of liberalism.
Listen, look at this religious book from another perspective, not from this point of view. Look from the front, back, head down and feet up. Now do not show that our religion is not against women. But there is a lot of freedom for women in this. The real purpose of the burqa was such and such.
Then why are Muslim women all over the world now wearing burqas? They do not say anything on this. Hindus also claim that in our Hindu religion, women rank above men.
High rating means platform. Come on, sit on the platform as a goddess. Do not laugh more openly Remember that you are a goddess. We have removed the gotra and made it a goddess after your name. Then how can you forget?
From wearing mangalsutra, applying vermilion and justifying husband's leg pressing, the fake arguments of 'fake science' and 'fake spirituality' are on YouTube today. Where does science and spirituality disappear as soon as a man talks instead of a woman?
I do not say that you take out a procession against religion, or abandon religion. But God has given you the freedom to make up your mind about what religion is, and what not, and the Constitution too. You do not have to wait for the world to change in order to change your life.
It is not just about religion. Good thing, 'Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao' campaign was launched. But on a poster it is written that save the daughter, otherwise who will cook the food at home.
Well, let's go. This is clearly a ridiculous thing. The other wise people should be considered. People say save daughter because
Daughters are the pride of home.
Daughters are considered fathers.
Thousands of such poems are recited at the function in thousands of schools, which are made by the parents or teachers of the children. Such poems also get reward. You clap.
And as soon as you clap, you inadvertently stamp the Manoj-Babli massacre. Instead of standing in court with Manoj's brave mother, that Mother India, you stand with the murdered relatives of Babli.
Well, if the family of Babli disagreed about her elopement with her boyfriend, they would have broken all ties with her. Never let him enter your house. But no, daughters are considered fathers. Daughters are the pride of home.
The daughter ran away from the house and gave her soot, and on the basis of this, her family got an argument to kill her.
Save the daughter because she has the right to live as much as the boy, which God has given to her above. Who are you to place any additional condition on them to take birth?
In this way, the woman has always been harassed by pretending to be above the man. Now say that women are not women. Women are human beings. They do not have to be Rani Laxmibai or Kalpana Chawla for their right to live or for their freedom. A girl from a poor family in a remote village of Rajasthan, who will probably stop studying after the eighth grade and will be the burden of dowry on her parents, also has the right to live. The problem of dowry is not because of the girl, but because of the greedy people who ask for dowry.
2. Sunny Leone is not an example of a strong woman.
Here, I have nothing to do with Sunny's personal life. I am talking about his film characters. If she wears short dresses in films, then what? Or say, for what? Only to placate the perverted mindset of men.
For those who used to watch the dance of the manners of the wayward mood, the cinema hall has now become a hall for him. The men were never at ease with their open moods. He wanted dignity at home. Even today the situation is the same. Sunny Leone fans will find more men, and fewer women.
Many people will be quick to interpret my point that women should not have the freedom to dress on their own. Before that let me make it clear that
Even though wearing shorts is not a sign of modernity, but the freedom to wear shorts is a hallmark of women's empowerment.
Men wear briefs and bathe in the sea of Goa, so women do not break them. Therefore, for the sake of God, stop making the ridiculous assertion that women clothes are responsible for rape.
Rape also happens in the village. Little girls are not being spared, and old women are not. Men fix vulgarity in their eyes and distorted thinking of the mind. Like the viral aunt of Gurgaon, women who support this cheap thinking, also change their thinking.
Well, back to Sunny, she is a symbol of women being made objects, not women empowerment.
Many filmmakers nowadays show women smoking alcohol and cigarettes in every film made on women's issues. Before they are ready to make any sense again, make it clear that -
Smoking cigarettes is harmful to health. Harmful to men, so also to women.
There is no point in calling a girl smoking alcohol or cigarettes characterless.
But although there is no reasonable reason to start smoking cigarettes, but feeling free from a girl is a very nonsensical reason to start smoking cigarettes. Yet this reason has become very common nowadays. The grief of this madness is such that some girls are smoking cigarettes of so-called boys, except for the so-called girls' cigarettes, to feel at par with men. Just think that a cigarette has started pulling in women.
As I said, some filmmakers have tricked girls. Repeatedly showing all this in the name of empowerment in films made on women-centric issues.
They have given the revolt a lost direction for the freedom of girls. Smoking alcohol and cigarettes, going out of wedlock, abusing like men, men competing in every nonsense. I don't find anything wrong with Bitti's cigarette smoking in Bareilly's Barfi, it is as wrong as Bitti's boyfriend and father's smoking cigarettes, but making it a mark of freedom in feminine-centric films like "Lipstick Under My Burka" is very much Is confusing.
I have seen many girls feeling modern even by abusing them.
In one film, there is a scene of women loudly abusing Bap-Bhai. What else would be ridiculous with this. Don't wait, you will see more senselessness than this in 'Four More Shots'.
Priyanka Chopra is an empowered woman who rises up her career in the male-dominated film industry. Priyanka wears short clothes, her wish. But wearing a sari is also not a sign of backwardness. Sampat Pal, who wears saris and started Gulab Gang, is also a symbol of women empowerment.
To be educated is empowerment of a woman.
It is empowering for a woman whose husband is beating her, and her parents ask her to adjust, to start some business and live with their children in a separate rented house.
Empowering a girl to find a boy for her marriage is not shameless.
Empowering a woman to become obsolete, like becoming a bus conductor or filling a petrol at a petrol pump.
The girls have been inspired by Kalpana Chawla and Sunita Williams.
The 60-year-old Lizat Papad Cooperative, in which all 43,000 working women, not employees, are mistresses of the company, is extremely inspiring to me.
Who will show the stories of all these women? When will Bollywood artistic films talk about their power? Will a woman have to be famous for this?
Till now, the only thing was to compete with men in wrong things like alcohol, cigarettes etc. But one issue is somewhat different from this -
I do not think empowering a woman is a job. Yes, it is absolutely necessary to have the freedom to do jobs. But if due to the consent of both Mian-Biwi, if a woman is doing household work and taking care of children, then I also have great respect for her.
According to the Bloomberg Agency, 75 percent of the world's domestic work is done by women. The stove is also a work, and it should be respected like any other work. Instead of postponing the honor of women for the day when all the women of India will be working women.
If on the contrary the husband is doing the housework, and the woman is working, then what is the problem. When a husband and wife agree, why is the man a joke to anyone?
Famous boxer Mary Kom wrote an open letter to her sons. In this, he said that your father does not go on a job of nine to five, just as the father of your friends goes, because one of us should be with you. You will soon hear the word 'house-husband', but remember that it is not derogatory. They are my soul mate, my strength, who are leading me at my every step. (Mary Kom’s Open Letter To Her Sons About Sexual Violence Is A Must Read For Every Man)
The wife of a friend told me that I want to work to get respect in the eyes of my in-laws. My daughter will take care of her. I told him that if you really want to do your job, then definitely do it. If an employment is your dream, complete it.
But to make a job, to earn money, to be called a working woman, because if you get respect, then that false honor is of no use. It is the narrow thinking of this industrial society that earning money is a contribution to the household. Your daughter is still very young and depends on you. I think it is a good thing to take care of him. It is your right to be respected. Why do you obey the laws of in-laws for her? Raise your voice in front of them.
Just as the conservatives imposed conditions for raising the father's value for the girl's right to live, the agitators made a picture filled with conditions for the woman's freedom. One, this picture is full of misleading things, and secondly why should there be conditions? Are there any conditions for men's freedom? So do this tearing and throwing away this picture.
Empowerment will be through reading and writing, raising your voice, laughing openly and creating the ability to stand on your feet. Freedom talked to everyone, but respect.
3. The movement for freedom of women should not be against men.
I don't have any problem with Feminism, but nowadays I am obsessed with many women walking around with the fame of Feminists. These "hardcore" feminists would like to show you that the bump is female versus male.
But this is not true. The collision is between conservative men and women and liberal men and women. Many women are advocates of conservatism. It is also natural for her to be like this, because she does not see her daughter-in-law and herself like two women. She sees them both as mothers-in-law. Therefore it is nonsense to say that woman is the enemy of woman. If any two people are fighting in the street, then you would not say that Indian is an enemy of Indian. In Brazil, the man sees himself as an Indian, not in front of his street neighbor.
Therefore, a woman who has always been in a patriarchal society, it is not surprising that her daughter is banned.
It is not a big deal to take away his right to cry from his son.
He is also seen to be involved in his daughter's honor killing.
Therefore, liberal men and women will have to fight together. It is also wrong for a woman to depend only on the man to raise his voice for freedom, but the voice of freedom should be against orthodox thinking rather than man.
We have to struggle together for our daughters and the next generation. We also have to fight for the daughters and sons of conservative people. We cannot leave them in the clutches of their merciless parents.
We have to raise a voice against the accused of MeToo, then by taking advantage of this movement, a person will also have to speak out against the women who take out their life-threatening enemies by making false accusations.
In almost every divorce case, in order to strengthen the favor of your female client, you will have to protest against the prosecution of false cases under Section 498A of domestic violence.
It has to be understood that the movement is not only for the rights of women. It is also for all those boys who were not allowed to cry since childhood. Those were hardened from the inside. Those who are made to feel embarrassed to openly express their grief to friends. Those who are 'men' consider it to be a matter of shame to seek psychological help. For whom an idiom like 'agonizing in silence' has been made. (Depression in men: suffering in silence)
Let me tell you that there is a very deep unity between orthodox men and women. Nowadays it is found everywhere. Liberal men and women will have to gather and understand the ideology of this fight.
4. Apart from shopping, women may also have some interest.
There was an old-fashioned conservative conditioning that could be easily seen. But in the last 50 years there has been a modern conditioning, which is being injected into the veins of girls through TV serials, advertisements and movies.
Women do not watch action films.
Women are not particularly interested in cricket or football.
Their favorite color is pink.
Their hobby is shopping.
He is not interested in politics.
Every girl dreams that her prince will come to take her on horseback.
The girl never expresses love to the boy.
Girl likes - Sajna is me for Sajna.
The girls eat their heads to ask for a time from the boyfriend.
The girl wishes a gift from the boyfriend.
Girls start feeling dizzy as soon as they see blood.
The girls love going to the temple. When they close their eyes and pray, the boyfriend will see them.
Girls like robe boys.
Women find it taboo to read a newspaper.
The man is reading the newspaper, and the woman is making tea. She then says that Azi, do not leave this newspaper.
Not all girls, but all this is no longer a complete lie. Millions of girls have started behaving in the same way. Pyaar Ka Panchnama, shown in the film, really proves true for many girls. Here I am not talking about cheating those girls, but I am talking about the specifics of the personality of those characters.
Just as a portrait of a strong woman has been made in women-centric films, a picture of the common girl has been made from the rest of the films and YouTube videos. Like Hinduization, Islamization, it is now a thing called feminization. Similarly a picture has been made for boys,
Boys like to ride bullet motorcycles. This should be the dream of every boy. It is very cool to burst firecrackers into his silencer.
The guy who can drink more alcohol is more manly.
Your brother will drive after drinking alcohol.
It is very brazen to screw with the police.
The real guy is the one who puts friends above the girlfriend.
It is very fun to eat food in the restaurant and run away without paying.
Wearing a pink or magenta shirt in boys is a matter of shame. Even small children will get parents to get colored pans, notebooks with boys.
Boys modeling clay with clay - is that crazy?
Brother, when are we running Bangkok? When a friend asks, if someone says that I do not want to go to a prostitute, therefore Mauritius can walk, then he is a puddle.
Many girls will cling to you, this should be the fantasy of every boy. So apply this perfume.
Six, you are applying cream with girls. Not this, apply masculine cream.
All girls and boys believe that all this is their own personality. This is their choice. But is it not a coincidence that all girls like shopping?
One has to recognize this conditioning, be aware of it, so that it can be removed. It is not like a clear-sighted wall of conservatism. This is an invisible prison, telling you how to become one. Here the challenge comes on fighting with itself.
Today, I read the newspaper and see it. Today I leave my favorite songs and listen to something new. We have to disintegrate ourselves in everything. Have to rebuild yourself. So that we can avoid being pushed into the new model of patriarchy.
5. It is not necessary that the boy's height is more than the time of marriage.
The daughter of a friend of mine is very upset with her mother. She started saying that brother, mother is lagging behind all the time. I also go to college myself. This girl's school was just seven hundred meters from her house. But even to class twelfth, she went to school with her mother in a car instead of going on bicycle or walking. Many boys will consider it a matter of shame that parents come to leave them, while many parents will also tell the boy that you need a parent just to go so far, what is crazy? But the girl continued to consume this defensive behavior of the parents as a convenience. Not only school, but also till the first year of college. But now that she has become a boyfriend, she is starting to find this behavior of her mother strange.
If there is a young son in the house, then the people hand over the hand of the boy to their parents, that is, the boy's grandparents and go to roam free. If something goes wrong, the boy will take him to the hospital. If there is no car, then the taxi will be taxed. Will do something or the other. But the girl who is dependent on her brother for going to her coaching, how will she tell parents that you go, I will take care of grandparents.
When you go to a self-service restaurant, the wife sits comfortably. The husband goes to order and get food.
The woman knows to drive a car, but when the husband is driving the car, why bother?
If you go somewhere to roam, the woman is standing worrying. Finding a hotel, booking a room, finding the next bus or taxi from there - all the husband will do.
Both boyfriends and girlfriends don't earn, but the restaurant's bill will fill the boyfriends.
Opening the door and moving the chair is considered a very gentleman's thing. The girl becomes so happy. Why, has henna in his own hands?
We reached the city of Phuntshaling in Bhutan. The hotel staff came out as soon as we saw our Tempo Traveler. Five women and one man. One of them quickly picked up my heavy bag. On seeing this, I suddenly got into 'Ladies First' mode. "Hey, what are you doing? I'll pick up my bag myself." I wanted to get my bag back from him. But he said "Sir, this is my job, let me do it." And taking all the bags, she and her four coworkers went inside. This is not just a hotel thing, the next nine days we saw it in every hotel, every restaurant, every farm, all the department stores. Women have taken everything in their hands there. Self-confidence is seen on their faces. Be it poor or rich, there women laugh openly, and do not flinch while talking to anyone.
It is right for women to be reserved seats in the metro, because some young and old men do wrong acts in the crowd. But when there is no crowd, should not a girl leave her seat for an elderly citizen? Some girls do this as well, which is a very good thing. But usually the girl assumes that a boy will give them their seat.
Few examples of this are seen that the wife earns more than the husband. Because in the Orange marriage, the girls themselves take special care to marry only the boys who earn more than themselves.
It has become so common that girls like rich boys. I want to say that this is a lie. But this does not seem completely untrue. The rich boy also makes the poor girl a girlfriend, but the rich girl's poor boyfriend is seen very rarely.
The girls accept the gift from the boyfriend as their right. She wants her boyfriend to put them on the eyelids, that is, pamper. In this way, she keeps giving the boyfriend the right to consider him his own property. These are girls like Preeti, the heroine of the film Kabir Singh. Then they later complain that the boyfriend is bullying them. Can the girl never surprise her on Valentine's Day or a boyfriend's birthday, or give a big gift.
It cannot be denied that women also do household chores. But the difference is that nowadays articles are appearing in newspapers that mother should teach her son to cook too. Now-a-days, even for household chores, kamwali is being installed But in the rich families where all the household work is done by the laborers, even outside people do the work. The work of those educated, car-driven, fashionable women is shown going to the kitty party in films.
Conservatives will never ask women to take up the above responsibility. Men will happily fill the restaurant bill themselves. Mother-in-law will not ask her daughter-in-law to go out alone to buy kitchen items. Conservative boys would be hard-pressed to marry a girl who is more than her own.
Because this 'Ladies First' is their trump card. If women like this started filling themselves with self-esteem, left relying on men for these tasks, if they learned to make their own decisions, then they would get out of hand.
Again let me say the same thing that if it is a kind of division between housework and outside work between a mian and wife, it is a good thing.
But girls need to stop being like my friend's self-proclaimed feminist girlfriend. When four floors had to come down and bring milk, it would become mimosa, and milk would bring her Shona Babu. But when it comes to making tea, the flame of feminism starts bursting from his heart. Well, my friend is living a happy married life with another girl at the mercy of God.
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